‘She has Main Character Syndrome’: Jealous younger sister announces her pregnancy at older sister's wedding, doesn't understand why that makes her selfish

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Jul 7, 2024 9:00 PM EDT

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  • A wedding is a celebratory day that is centered all around the bride and groom, right? It celebrates their love and is a day to wish them luck in their future relationship. So why are there friends and family members who think it is okay to steal that spotlight? 

    In this latest wedding drama Reddit rant, a younger sister stole the attention during her older sister's wedding day. She asked her if she could announce her pregnancy at her wedding and her sister said no. That is the one day in her life that it is okay to make it all about her and her lovely groom. However, her entitled sister didn't seem to care, because she did it anyway. The older sister was upset and told her how she felt about the betrayal a few days after the wedding. However, instead of apologizing or explaining herself, she went straight to gaslighting her older sister. Then she even got several family members to take her side. Now the newlywed sister doesn't know how to feel. However, the internet does, and the internet is telling her that she has a spoiled little sister. See the entire story below!

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    "My wedding day was meant to be about me and my husband. I didn't want any distractions or overshadowing moments."
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    AITA for not letting my sister announce her pregnancy at my wedding? I (28F) got married last month, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. However, it turned into a bit of a family drama, and now I'm being accused of being selfish and an hole by my sister (26F).
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    A few weeks before the wedding, my sister called me up and told me she was pregnant. I was thrilled for her and congratulated her. Then she asked if she could announce her pregnancy at my wedding. She said it would be a perfect moment since all the family and friends would be there, and she wanted to share her joy with everyone.
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    I thought about it and told her no. I explained that my wedding day was meant to be about me and my husband, and I didn't want any distractions or overshadowing moments. I suggested she could have her own party to make the announcement or wait until after the wedding to tell everyone. She seemed disappointed but said she understood. I thought that was the end of it.
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    Fast forward to the wedding day. During the reception, my sister stood up to make a toast. I didn't think much of it since we hadn't planned a strict schedule for speeches. However, during her toast, she announced her pregnancy. Everyone cheered and congratulated her, and the rest of the night, people were more focused on her news than on our wedding.
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    I was furious but didn't want to cause a scene at my own wedding, so I waited until the next day to confront her. She said she couldn't keep it in any longer and felt the wedding was the best time to share her happiness. I told her she was out of line and selfish for doing that without my permission.
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    Now, she and some other family members are calling me an hole for not understanding her excitement and for being selfish myself. They think I'm overreacting and that a wedding is a perfect time for happy announcements like this. So, Reddit, AITA for not letting my sister announce her pregnancy at my wedding?
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    dncrmom 10h ago NTA you have a few months to think up an announcement that you can make at her baby shower, since the family will conveniently be together again. 3K Reply
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    FoFee123 • 10h ago Why did she have to announce it on your wedding day? She had weeks to announce the pregnancy to everyone but wants to do it at your wedding. Seems to me all she cares about is herself. 2.3K Reply
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    Charmingbeauty5562 9h ago • Call her (don't put it into text so you can say she misunderstood later) and say you are soooo happy for her and can't wait for your niece or nephew to arrive. And thank her for showing you that happy news can be shared at other people's events and you know now you won't have to keep anything to yourself. Then, ask when the baby shower is. Building up to the shower, drop hints that you have news to share but you can't share quite yet. Then, at the shower, she will be
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    Ok_Young1709 • 9h ago Announce your pregnancy at her baby. shower for ultimate revenge. Even if you aren't pregnant. Nta, she is a and just had to make it about her, didn't she? Don't bother getting her anything for a baby shower if she has one, if she asks why, tell her she got a party thrown at your expense, she doesn't need anything more does she? ↑ 987 Reply
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    No_Profession... • 10h ago Edited 10h ago It's your wedding. You're allowed to be selfish! My wife and I have been married for 17 years and if my SIL pulled that on my wife we'd still be no contact. Especially when you had already had the discussion and she did it just to get attention taken off you and onto her. You sister should post that on fb and get all the fake engagement she wants. Leave your special day alone.. 443 Reply ...
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    Technically_tired • 10h ago NTA Venmo her for half of the party since she decided to make half your wedding about herself. I'll never understand like this. people 181 Reply
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    spaytfulOrientation 10h ago You're not the • . Your wedding day should've been about you and your husband, not overshadowed by someone else's announcement, no matter how exciting. She should've respected your wishes. 141 Reply ...
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    CrabbiestAsp 10h ago NTA. She had 279 other days to announce her pregnancy. She didn't give a about you or your big exciting day but expects you to understand her excitement? that noise. 137 Reply
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    Sweet_Background7325 9h ago • As a person who had this bombshell dropped on our less than 4 hour wedding day, no you are NTA. My brother-in-law told every one they were pregnant with the 1st grandchild at our wedding. My mother was incensed (I'm the only girl), and my feelings were hurt. They sure had their day. His family didn't see the big deal. Easter was the following weekend and we all would have been together, but they (like your sister) "couldn't wait". I should have taken it was a huge r
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    Husband didn't want any confrontation, so he didn't call his brother on it. That's exactly how it would continue to be. Your sister and family are so excited about the baby, you and your feelings are being completely overlooked. This probably won't change. You aren't the but you'll be treated like you are because your sister had the 1st baby and that is what clearly takes precedent with some families. 122 Reply ...
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    BestAd5844 9h ago NTA- "Dear sister and family, A couples. wedding is one time in life that they are allowed to be selfish and think of one another. We paid X amount dollars to make our wedding about my husband and I and our commitment. As you feel it is appropriate for sister to make our wedding about herself, you are welcome to pay for half the cost of the reception.
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    The amount of money will cover the cost of turning our wedding into her pregnancy celebration." Just wondering if her husband knew that you had previously denied her permission or if he was told you said it was ok? He may not be pleased to find out she went behind your back ↑ 97 ☐ Reply
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    Thisisthenextone • 9h ago She did this so she didn't have to pay for her own party. So send her a bill for one of the vendors. If she wants to announce at someone else's party, she should help pay for the party. ↑ 78 ⇓ Reply
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    • Big_It 10h ago NTA She asked, you said no. She didn't care. Personally I'd go low to no contact with her. Prob have nothing too do with the child and essentially be civil but ignore her at family functions. I would extract revenge of any kind but I also would completely disengage with her in life. She is selfish, a child, and personally a for dropping that news after saying no 35 Reply
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    . The_Crown_And_Anchor • 9h ago NTAH Distance yourself from your sister Straight up tell her you have no interest in having a relationship with her until she reimburses you for half the reception that she hijacked for herself. Since she wanted to share the party, she should share in the cost. And that if she never speaks to you again, then so be it.
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    But if she wants a relationship with you she will reimburse you for the cost of half the reception. And if any family members have a problem with that, they are free to pay the bill for her. People need to be willing to cut off their family even if it's painful What your sister did was wrong Tell her and the family that the only way to make up for it is to pay for half the reception she hijacked and you won't be changing your mind on this. And that you are fully prepared to cut off the entire fa
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    Last Friend_6350 9h ago NTA • I would go no contact for that and the same for any family members that supported her. She knew that you did not want her to announce the pregnancy on your wedding day but she still hijacked your special day to do it anyway.
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    I wouldn't be able to forgive or forget that she viewed a baby announcement as more important than my wedding day, that she completely disregarded my express wishes and trampled all over my feelings. It sounds like she has Main Character Syndrome and it probably isn't the first time she's tried to make everything about her and knocked you out of the way to do it. 23 Reply
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    Winterfell_Ice • 9h ago NTA, this is a classic tactic used by jealous women everywhere to take spotlight off the bride on her wedding day. The second most common is to have their BF propose at the wedding to take focus off the bride and couple. It's classic, it's cheap and utterly tacky and disgraceful. 15 Reply
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    LibraryMouse4321 7h ago • You need to go nuclear revenge on her. Get her back. I have a big problem when someone asks, gets told no, and then does it anyway. She deserves a big payback. Get a dog or a cat and spend the entire time at her shower showing pictures. Or just find some at a shelter and take loads of pictures to share at her shower, asking everyone which one you should adopt.
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    Tell their histories, or make up a history to tell about them. Make her shower all about your new (or potential) pet. You can also announce YOUR pregnancy at her shower. Make sure all the attention is on you. If she complains, tell her loudly that you don't see why she's upset. She announced her pregnancy at your wedding after you specifically told her not to, so she shouldn't mind one but. ↑ 11 Reply ...
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    dookle14 • 9h ago NTA - I'd have told her that if she wanted to announce her pregnancy at your wedding, then you'd be happy to send her a bill for a portion of the venue cost. When she undoubtedly refuses that offer, tell her that she can find a time and place on her own dime to make that announcement, but you aren't going to fund it for her.
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    I will never understand someone who is knowingly trying to steal the spotlight at a wedding. You don't propose and you don't make major announcements like "I'm pregnant" at someone else's event. Have a brunch the next day and tell the family who are still in town then FFS. ↑ 8 ↓ Reply ...
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    Vegetable-Cod-2340 · 9h ago NTA What is happening?!?!? I feel like it used to be common sense or knowledge that you don't propose or announce pregnancy at other people's wedding or events?!?! Is this a generational thing that I'm missing or what?
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    It's incredibly selfish to think you get to have a moment on someone else's day? That they paid for, and guarantee that if op announces she's pregnant at the sister's baby shower she'll be called selfish. 8 Reply
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